Coaching your Child through KS4
An Effective parent coach
• Doesn’t tell their child WHAT to do or HOW to do it, rather listens and asks the right questions to move them forward
• Recognises their child’s strengths and builds upon these
• Helps their child recognise the barriers to their success
• Guides and supports their child through their difficulties
• Helps their child find the right solution for them
• Encourages their child to ask for support from the right people
• Notices and rewards small step success
Why coach not tell?
• It is their life!
• Their results!
• The most important skill you can help them develop is their ability to face and manage things themselves and take ownership
• Time to grow up and take responsibility - you are the bridge to a successful adult life
How Prepared are they?
1. Have they got a place to work/revise at home?
• Warm, Quiet, Well lit
• Place to put files
• No distractions
• Do they know what the school offers during and after school?
2. Have they got revision notes/study cards and coursework plans for each subject?
• Book notes are not enough
• What resources have your teachers recommended?
• How can I help you to get them?
• What is your work/Time/homework plan and do you know your deadlines?
How will they know they are in the right place?
• They know what they need to improve specifically in each subject (not maths: solving equations. Not PE: muscle groups…)
• They know what they are doing to improve
• You can see them doing it
• They look you in the eye when explaining
• They are calm and confident
• They answer in the first person and take responsibility i.e. I need to, I will
• You are their coach
• You are their biggest fan/resource and the one that knows them the best for the good and the bad
• Don’t accept excuses!
• Help them feel strong enough to overcome challenges and step it up—whatever their level!
Effective Partnership with your child
• Build on their strengths
• Reward and encourage hard work and EFFORT!
• Don’t allow any obstacle to stand in their way
• Don’t accept excuses: my teacher didn’t say, doesn’t help, the class is noisy, no-one has told me…
• If you aren’t sure and need clarification: form tutor/subject teacher